Our struggle is not against flesh and blood….

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12

For a sex addict, everyday is a fight: thoughts, unwanted sexual behaviors and actions, etc. We live in a dark world and sometimes we encounter those dark forces that tempt and entice us to do things that in our heart, we know are wrong. I think that in our lives, whether you are Christian or not, we battle against powerful evil forces of fallen angels headed by satan, who, remarkably enough, himself is a vicious fighter (see 1 Peter 5:8).

Satan has control over these fallen angels/demons. They’re not mere fantasies – trust me, they are very real. We face a powerful army whose main goal is to destroy the souls of men and defeat the Christ’s church. These spirits are our enemies, even more so when a person believes in Christ, and these demons try every device to turn us away from God and make our lives miserable. We must engage in the struggle because satan is constantly battling against all who are on the Lord’s side and keeping all others who aren’t, in the dark. We need supernatural power to defeat satan and God has provided this to all believers by giving us His Holy Spirit within us and His armor (Ephesians 6:10-17) surrounding us.

I’ll discuss this topic a little bit more in the future, but I just wanted to let you know who we as sex addicts fight against. Yes, we fight against ourselves at times, but ultimately it’s the spiritual forces that are constantly around us, that we need fight. Though it sounds daunting, rejoice that God has given us the¬†tools and authority to fight and we are assured victory.

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  1. The Wife

    Congrats! Well written. From the heart. Keep up the good work.

    Many people struggle with addictions and many have won. You can win. Keep your armor on even when everything seems against you.

  2. In another blog post, you asked what your wife wanted. If I may be so bold–I’ll tell you. First, she wants what she can’t have, just like you, in seeking the high of your addiction wanted– she wants the fantasy/reality that you aren’t an addict, that you didn’t fall. If not that, then she wants that you can guarantee 100% you never will fall again. She, like all of us co-addicts, involved with addicts, want the fantasy that this never happened.
    But that is impossible. So I will tell you what you actually CAN do to show her that this time, it’s different. It’s what my hb did and still does. He made these his priorities: #1 his own sobriety program was his first priority. His second priority, a very close second, was earning my trust. Whatever I wanted, whatever I asked, whatever I needed, he gave it to me. He swallowed his pride, he let go of the fear that I was trying to punish him or control him, and gave. He gave it all up, first to his Higher Power, and then, to me, so I could learn to trust him again. He didn’t go get rid of all his stash on his own. I went with him, and I got rid of it. (What I’m saying is– let your wife get rid of the stuff on your computer. If you’re ashamed you have so much of it, or it’s gross, that’s okay. But she needs to know you’re not taking one more little glance, as sort of a so long to your habit.)
    Sobriety means submission–submitting your lust, submitting your will, submitting your ‘stuff’ to your HP. Earning your wife’s trust means that you answer all her questions. Some spouses want intricate details, some want highlights. Whatever she wants, you tell her. In SA they say we’re only as sick as our worst secret. So– let her in. It is a challenge, but when you see her trust begin to spark, you will know it’s worth it.
    God bless.

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